Mindset for Learning
Tips for a successful experience:
Take it slow- You could choose to blow through this program in one sitting- but the best practice is to sit with it a few pages a day to let your awareness grow gently.
Open your mind- In order to create change we must first be open to it. But in my work with clients I notice a few blocks often get in the way. I wanted to warn you about these in case you encounter them as you work on your connection.
Think bigger- The single greatest limiting belief I encounter is an internal voice saying “I already know this” It’s true- some of the things we will go over may be lessons you have heard in the past.
My guess is if you stay open and curious as a learner you will find ways to integrate the lesson, and may learn at a deeper level this go around. Try it.
The simple truth is we rarely take time to intentionally apply the truths we know of relationships to our own lives or practices.
Instead of saying “I already know this” Ask yourself, “what can I learn from this”? Try to see the information from a new angle or with new appreciation each week.
Try, try again- A similar limiting belief can come in the form of “I already tried this” or “This won’t work for me” Instead, try to stay open and curious as a learner and ask yourself, “how can this work for me?”
Even if you have tried something similar before, you are a different person than you were then- and your ability to move toward happiness may be different now. Challenge yourself to try it out anyway.
Nothing is too simple- Finally, one of the other limiting beliefs clients encounter in this work is “this is too simple.” Strange but true, the ease of these practices leads many of us to take a relaxed approach when applying them.
When we think they’re too simple to make a real difference- and we are totally wrong. This process is filled with tiny tweaks you can do to make real changes in your relationship patterns. Don’t let the ease fool you- staying committed to this process will help you get and stay clear.
With that premise, the biggest secret to success with this tool is so simple you might roll your eyes- but try it out because it works: write it down.
Use the reflection guide below to consider what may help you honor these mindsets in our program
Make a plan for your learning. Set aside time where you won't be distracted. Are you going to sit down and do a weekly lesson at once? Or break it up over the week? Make a plan. We recommend having a notebook or journal specifically for this membership group. It's helpful to keep all of your notes in one place.
It's also really helpful to have a learning buddy. If you are in a relationship, think about joining this group with your partner. It will serve your relationship to be able to process this information together.
Each Monday we will release a new lesson. Each week we will explore a theme together. We'll share a video that introduces the topic and also give you tools, handouts and reflection questions. You will have unlimited access to each released lesson as long as you maintain your monthly membership.
The Second Wednesday of each month we will host a Live Zoom Happy Hour Call at 5PM Pacific / 8PM Eastern. You'll be able to ask us your questions directly and also connect with other members You can add the call to your calendar and get the zoom link here.
We'll also be hosting a monthly Book Club exclusively for our Love Lessons Learning Lab members. If you love learning as much as we do, you will love this bonus! Each month we will focus on a different book and share our thoughts and impressions in the group. You will find the current book under the Book Club section. We will also host a brief about about the book - You can add the call to your calendar and get the zoom link here.
Connect with us and each other. Use the comment section under each lesson (and monthly call and monthly book) to share your thoughts and questions. We love hearing what's resonating with you and we are excited to answer your questions.